1. Based on information in the introduction to chapter five, explain why nonverbal communication is a significant form of human communication.
Nonverbal communication is a significant form of human communication for a variety of reasons. To begin with, nonverbal communication often has a greater impact on receivers than does verbal communication, in certain contexts (pg. 126). It also tends to be more believable and genuine because it is more physiologically based, indicating that people will tend to judge what you are saying based off of your nonverbal communication. For example, a person could say to someone "shut up," but have a smile and tone that indicates they are just playing around. Or, a person could say that same frase with a disgusted look on their face and harsh tone in their voice, indicating they are serious. Nonverbal communication can change the whole meaning of what a person is verbally saying.
9. What is one way that the eyes are used for nonverbal communication?
One way the eyes are used for nonverbal communication is to invite conversation. Eye contact is critical for effective public speaking, job interviews, and personal relationships. It demonstrates openness and attentiveness, and can also demonstrate cold and intimidating. How a person looks at you can say a lot about what they are feelings. If a person looks you directly in the eye, it generally indicates the person is more confident and available to you, whereas a person who avoids eyecontact appears to be more reserved and less bold. However, one must take into consideration that this is the perspective of Americans and that not all cultures view eye contact in the same way.
11. What is one way that touch is used for nonverbal communication according to the text?
One of the ways that touch is used for nonverbal communication is to indicate friendship and warmth. However, this touch is the one that leads to the most misunderstandings between people. Too little touch, and the other person could feel more distant and cold from you, but too much may indicate that you want something more with the other person. People should be very aware of this type of nonverbal communication and do their best to judge where they are at with their friends wisely to act appropriately. Males, especially, have to be careful with how much they touch a friend because many times it can signify they have sexual intentions.
14. What is one way that space is used for nonverbal communication?
One of the ways that space is used for nonverbal communication is to display intimacy and signs of affection. A study found that distressed romantic partners stay 25% further away from each other than happy romantic partners (pg. 147). This reveals that how close you are to a person physically can sometimes determine how close you are to them relationally. It is important to be aware of the space between you and someone else, for being too close can indicate a deeper relationship than actually exists and make a person feel uncomfortable, while being too far away can project a distance and unease about the relationship. It is also important to examine if there are different cultures involved, for different cultures have different norms for spacial tendencies.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Monday, January 31, 2011
Significance of 4-letter code
My 4 letter code is ESFJ.
For choosing a major this means I like to know early on what path I am going to be taking, so I can know as soon as possible the direction in which I will be going. My major involves working in people-oriented fields and serving other. This can include jobs such as teaching, ministry heath care, etc.
My learning style is that I think best while talking and enjoy conversation. I love human examples and need harmony in my learning environment. I am interested in applying learning to serve others.
Reading, writing and studying come with organization. I like to plan ahead and follow-though with every assignment to the best of my capability. The majority of the time I need to revise my writing editing out the references to what I personally believe in....I like to give my own opinion :). The majority of the time, I assume that everything I read is authoritative and important.
When it comes to playing, I find it hard to relax until all of my jobs are completely done...even if this means working on behalf of others. With roommates, I don't like there to ever be problems and will work things out until they are fixed. I like to be involved in groups, ministries, or activities and usually like to be the leader or have some sort of responsibility :).
Stress can come to me when I neglect my own needs to take care of others, and when I give my all in service and expect others should do the exact same. I am also sensitive to indifference from others.
To deal with stress, I naturally rely on my family and friends and pay close attention to what I need. I ask others what they want before trying to help, and give my best on any task given to me.
PART 2:
1.) After learning about these different personality profiles, I have realized I need to better understand and improve my relationship with my brother, Brian.
2.) If I were to guess his four-lettter code it would be INTJ, which is almost the exact opposite of mine.
3.) He is definitely an introverted person, which I have found difficult to understand. I have thought in the past that he was depressed and could not fathom how he could spend a whole weekend by himself reading and playing video games. Now, I have realized that it is just part of his personality. He is also a person who likes to focus on possibilities for the future and spends a lot of time researching and reflecting before making a decision (since I can tend to be impatient and want to decide right away, this can drive me crazy! haha). We also differ in the fact that he is more of a thinker and very logical, while I am sensitive and all about relating to the material and to others. He learns and operates with facts, while I tend to learn better when I can apply the material to myself and everyday life. In the last part of our codes, however, we share the same letter - J. This means we both plan our work well in advance and drive toward closure. We work steadily toward our goals and like formal instructions for solving problems.
4.) I can adapt better to his communication style and improve our relationship, after having learned these codes and realizing our differences. Whenever I think he is being rude because he won't talk to me that much, I can realize he probably just needs space and doesn't want to be around people. I don't need to get offended when he doesn't want to interact with my friends or when he would rather spend time reading then going to get smoothie with me (personal example :) ). I will give him space when I sense he needs it, and not question why he doesn't like to do things with people sometimes.
5.) I will not get so upset or take things so personal when he does something that I think is unkind, when really it is just how he is. I will not try to make him change his personality or try to force him to do things he doesn't wan to do (ex. go to a large get together). I will accept him and appreciate him for who he is and when I am frustrated with him, remember that is it just because we were created differently.
For choosing a major this means I like to know early on what path I am going to be taking, so I can know as soon as possible the direction in which I will be going. My major involves working in people-oriented fields and serving other. This can include jobs such as teaching, ministry heath care, etc.
My learning style is that I think best while talking and enjoy conversation. I love human examples and need harmony in my learning environment. I am interested in applying learning to serve others.
Reading, writing and studying come with organization. I like to plan ahead and follow-though with every assignment to the best of my capability. The majority of the time I need to revise my writing editing out the references to what I personally believe in....I like to give my own opinion :). The majority of the time, I assume that everything I read is authoritative and important.
When it comes to playing, I find it hard to relax until all of my jobs are completely done...even if this means working on behalf of others. With roommates, I don't like there to ever be problems and will work things out until they are fixed. I like to be involved in groups, ministries, or activities and usually like to be the leader or have some sort of responsibility :).
Stress can come to me when I neglect my own needs to take care of others, and when I give my all in service and expect others should do the exact same. I am also sensitive to indifference from others.
To deal with stress, I naturally rely on my family and friends and pay close attention to what I need. I ask others what they want before trying to help, and give my best on any task given to me.
PART 2:
1.) After learning about these different personality profiles, I have realized I need to better understand and improve my relationship with my brother, Brian.
2.) If I were to guess his four-lettter code it would be INTJ, which is almost the exact opposite of mine.
3.) He is definitely an introverted person, which I have found difficult to understand. I have thought in the past that he was depressed and could not fathom how he could spend a whole weekend by himself reading and playing video games. Now, I have realized that it is just part of his personality. He is also a person who likes to focus on possibilities for the future and spends a lot of time researching and reflecting before making a decision (since I can tend to be impatient and want to decide right away, this can drive me crazy! haha). We also differ in the fact that he is more of a thinker and very logical, while I am sensitive and all about relating to the material and to others. He learns and operates with facts, while I tend to learn better when I can apply the material to myself and everyday life. In the last part of our codes, however, we share the same letter - J. This means we both plan our work well in advance and drive toward closure. We work steadily toward our goals and like formal instructions for solving problems.
4.) I can adapt better to his communication style and improve our relationship, after having learned these codes and realizing our differences. Whenever I think he is being rude because he won't talk to me that much, I can realize he probably just needs space and doesn't want to be around people. I don't need to get offended when he doesn't want to interact with my friends or when he would rather spend time reading then going to get smoothie with me (personal example :) ). I will give him space when I sense he needs it, and not question why he doesn't like to do things with people sometimes.
5.) I will not get so upset or take things so personal when he does something that I think is unkind, when really it is just how he is. I will not try to make him change his personality or try to force him to do things he doesn't wan to do (ex. go to a large get together). I will accept him and appreciate him for who he is and when I am frustrated with him, remember that is it just because we were created differently.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Mission Statement and Goals
My mission is to love the Lord with all that I am, reflect His heart to others, and impart into my generation that which is pleasing and holy to Him.
Goals:
Spiritual: PRAYER. I will set aside atleast 5 minutes per day to pray for myself and others and believe God for great things. Last week, one of my pastors had us take 5 minutes during our regular prayer time to believe God for the impossible...the things that if were to happen we could never take credit for. He called it "5 minutes of faith." May I stir up my faith daily and believe God for the impossible. I will do this at the most convenient time of each day, when it is easiest to get time alone. Sometimes I will write prayers in my journal, pray outloud or pray silently but after every prayer time I will write in my journal what I prayed about. By the end of the semester, my goal is to have a journal full of faith, of my prayers to the Lord.
Relationship: By the end of the semester, my goal is to have visited my friends at a former college I went to 3 years ago, in Oregon. I haven't been back since I left, and I need to go invest into people that I know there. I will find a free weekend and go down to see them and spend quality time with them.
Eating: I must eat more fruits and vegetables!!! :) haha this one is hard for me. My goal is for one month straight (before semester ends) eat atleast 2 fruits and 2 vegetables per day. I will keep a journal and record the type of fruits/vegetables I am eating each day.
Goals:
Spiritual: PRAYER. I will set aside atleast 5 minutes per day to pray for myself and others and believe God for great things. Last week, one of my pastors had us take 5 minutes during our regular prayer time to believe God for the impossible...the things that if were to happen we could never take credit for. He called it "5 minutes of faith." May I stir up my faith daily and believe God for the impossible. I will do this at the most convenient time of each day, when it is easiest to get time alone. Sometimes I will write prayers in my journal, pray outloud or pray silently but after every prayer time I will write in my journal what I prayed about. By the end of the semester, my goal is to have a journal full of faith, of my prayers to the Lord.
Relationship: By the end of the semester, my goal is to have visited my friends at a former college I went to 3 years ago, in Oregon. I haven't been back since I left, and I need to go invest into people that I know there. I will find a free weekend and go down to see them and spend quality time with them.
Eating: I must eat more fruits and vegetables!!! :) haha this one is hard for me. My goal is for one month straight (before semester ends) eat atleast 2 fruits and 2 vegetables per day. I will keep a journal and record the type of fruits/vegetables I am eating each day.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Personality Profile
After taking the personality test online, the 4-letter code I received was ESFJ. This categorizes me in the area of the Guardian- Portrait of the Provider. Some of the things providers are known for are being friendly, outgoing, and neighborly- in such a way that they can even become restless when isolated from people. Providers are extremely sensitive to the feelings of others, making them perhaps the most sympathetic of all the types, but which also leaves them somewhat self-conscious. They are people concerned with the needs of others, they love to entertain, and they are the most sociable of of all the Guardians. Providers can be crushed by personal criticism, and need to be loved - for they are loving and affectionate themselves.
Monday, January 10, 2011
My Past, Purpose and Passions
My name is Megan Aubrey Kever, which means child of light (Persian), pearl (Greek), and strong and capable (Anglo-Saxon). I have am the oldest child in my family and have only one brother who is 4 years younger than me. I grew up in Puyallup, WA and was raised in a Protestant church, although when I entered high school began going to a Foursquare church and that is where I am still currently serving. I decided to come to Northwest University because some of pastors had gone here and recommended it and of course I wanted to receive a great education. I am an Organizational Communcations major and chose this field of study in hopes to one day be a pastor or work at a non-profit organization.
For fun, I love to go innertubing (well, actually basically anything that involves the sun and water :) ), snowboarding, and I love to travel. I like to workout/run, read, and also love going to coffee with just about anyone. My favorite places to go on a regular basis are Starbucks (haha) and the YMCA (but now will be the gym at NU). For vacation, my favorite places are Hawaii, Mexico, and Costa Rica...all warm with sunshine :) Currently, I am serving in a college-age ministry at my church (Puyallup Foursquare), and I am very excited for this upcoming year. The Lord is so good and I am excited to see where He takes us. Friday nights at 7 is our service so if you ever want to come, let me know :). At NU, I am excited to continue my growth in Christ and further my education. Some accomplishments/achievements in my life have been being an ASB and Spanish Club officer in high school, receiving highest honors for honor roll, serving as a fractal leader in our college-age ministry, and studying in Costa Rica for 6 months at a language academy.
For future plans, of course I will go wherever the Lord leads me, however I hope to one day be a pastor at a church or work in a non-profit organization (as previously stated), lead mission trips, and at sometime in my life volunteer at an orphanage. My pastors and parents have been great influences in my life, as well as some teachers I have had in high school and college. They have helped me discover what I am passionate about and also have challenged me in many different ways. One of these people is Christina Gard, the Children's Ministry professor here, so if you get a chance stop by and introduce yourself to her-you won't regret it. I know my calling in life has to do with the following: ministry (it's who we are not what we do :)), preaching, teaching, and something with Spanish. We will see where the Lord takes me! My life mission statement is: I exist to love the Lord with all that I am, reflect His heart to others, and impart into others that which is pleasing and holy to Him. Some of my goals in life are to get my master's degree, receive a pastoral license, lead/plan mission trips, and help people who are in extreme poverty.
For fun, I love to go innertubing (well, actually basically anything that involves the sun and water :) ), snowboarding, and I love to travel. I like to workout/run, read, and also love going to coffee with just about anyone. My favorite places to go on a regular basis are Starbucks (haha) and the YMCA (but now will be the gym at NU). For vacation, my favorite places are Hawaii, Mexico, and Costa Rica...all warm with sunshine :) Currently, I am serving in a college-age ministry at my church (Puyallup Foursquare), and I am very excited for this upcoming year. The Lord is so good and I am excited to see where He takes us. Friday nights at 7 is our service so if you ever want to come, let me know :). At NU, I am excited to continue my growth in Christ and further my education. Some accomplishments/achievements in my life have been being an ASB and Spanish Club officer in high school, receiving highest honors for honor roll, serving as a fractal leader in our college-age ministry, and studying in Costa Rica for 6 months at a language academy.
For future plans, of course I will go wherever the Lord leads me, however I hope to one day be a pastor at a church or work in a non-profit organization (as previously stated), lead mission trips, and at sometime in my life volunteer at an orphanage. My pastors and parents have been great influences in my life, as well as some teachers I have had in high school and college. They have helped me discover what I am passionate about and also have challenged me in many different ways. One of these people is Christina Gard, the Children's Ministry professor here, so if you get a chance stop by and introduce yourself to her-you won't regret it. I know my calling in life has to do with the following: ministry (it's who we are not what we do :)), preaching, teaching, and something with Spanish. We will see where the Lord takes me! My life mission statement is: I exist to love the Lord with all that I am, reflect His heart to others, and impart into others that which is pleasing and holy to Him. Some of my goals in life are to get my master's degree, receive a pastoral license, lead/plan mission trips, and help people who are in extreme poverty.
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